A Story to Share

I always love telling this true story : When i was working and subspecialising in Urogynaecology in Australia, a patient turned up at my clinic 3 weeks after surgery by my colleague. She had a tape inserted through the vagina for treatment of her urine leakage.She complained that the tape had eroded through the vagina as her husband felt the pain while having sex with her the night before. On examination, she was found to be absolutely right. I snipped of the tape and gave her vaginal hormones to thicken the vaginal skin over the cut surface and her husband was happy ever after.

Now, the story i want to tell is that she was 76 and her husband was 80 years of age. In the public hospital where i practised, we usually review our patients 6 weeks after surgery to give them the go-ahead to resume normal activities. This elderly couple could not wait and were having at 3 weeks after the operation! It is really so nice to see an elderly couple still so intimate and so in love. Isn't this a beautiful story?

To reiterate, it is not uncommon for people not being bale to enjoy sex. Fortunately, there are many ways to help them, including the use of sexual tools / toys. Couples should make it a point to set aside themselves even though they have a busy work schedule. It is useful to have the correct environment and ambiance. Those with kids may want to consider going off for a " dirty weekend " once in a while. Foreplay is of utmost importance and one should not jump straight into coitus. Change of position, medication and a positive and correct outlook towards sex will help in achieving sexual satisfaction.

Life is short and unpredictable - the journey will be wonderful if we can have a great emotional and sexual relationship with someone we love . .. . . . . . . . . .